When you consider how to read body language during a negotiation, what do you consider? When negotiating in person, do you focus on the other negotiator’s eyes, hands, feet, mouth? Or, are there other aspects to which you apply your attention? When negotiating on the phone and/or in social media, what do you look/listen for to gain hidden meanings to spoken/unspoken – written/unwritten words?

Being able to decipher undisclosed words and hidden meanings in a negotiation can give you great insight per what you should do to ensure you negotiate better.

Observe the following body language and nonverbal signals in your interactions with others to enhance your negotiation efforts and outcomes.

1. Face-to-Face Negotiations:
   1. When negotiating in person, note when the other negotiator faces you straight-on with his whole body (i.e. head, feet) versus when he turns slightly away. At the point when he faces you straight-on his body language is indicating that the two of you are more aligned with what’s being discussed. Note when he turns away (i.e. head or feet). That gesture indicates that the alignment has been broken. Take special note of when that occurs in the negotiation process to heighten your mindfulness as to what was said/done to make him turn away.
   2. Eyes – Observe when the other negotiator averts his eyes from yours. You should be mindful of such even if it occurs for a moment. It may be a momentary sign of discomfort. If it occurred as the result of something he or you said, it may be a sign that he doesn’t believe what he’s saying (lying) or what he’s hearing. It could also mean, he has something in his eye. Pose a question to verify what you’ve seen if you think it will impact the negotiation.

2. Email & Phone Negotiations:
   1. Be very observant as to when someone alters the pace of which they speak or write. In writing, such can be denoted by the variance seen in shorter or longer sentences. When speaking, such is denoted in the pace of speech. In either case, an alteration of either can indicate a shift in the negotiation.
   2. Be mindful of the tonality of your voice and that of the person with whom you’re negotiating. You can convey a more serious demeanor with a lower tonality. Such should be used when appropriate, and a softer tonality should be used when attempting to be airier and less serious. Also, be mindful of a changed tonality, that conveys the same tune. There may be deeper implications in that action.

Regardless of the environment in which you negotiate, take note of when people alter their demeanor as to why they may have done so. In order to make such a distinction, you should observe how they purport themselves in what is a ‘normal’ environment for them; doing so will give you a foundation from which to note changes. If you’re observant to such occurrences, you’ll be quicker to realize when a correction strategy may need to be employed. Such recognition will also allow you to negotiate better, which will lead to more winning negotiation outcomes… and everything will be right with the world.

Remember, you’re always negotiating!

Valentine Presents

The big day is near to arrive, yet you have not even picked perfect Valentine presents for your loved ones. Well, worry no more. As you roam and think around, you can be relieved that there are plenty of possible presents that will make this day a blast. Whether you buy your present in advance or in rush, particularly for busy men who have stopped to grab flowers on the last minute, you must forget not to add a card on top. Show your thoughts by writing something romantic on it. You don’t need to come up with rhymes or corny limericks just to get her.

However, given that you are aware of this special day coming, yet right at this very moment you are stuck on what are the kinds of Valentine presents to get and buy, the secret is to grab something that suits your loved one’s personality. Yes, it is never embarrassing to choose Valentine’s lingerie over the other options for this will let her think that it is only her that you are thinking about all the time. Of course, a naughty teddy and the like will work a lot, but you will want to have something for her that she will fall in love in the first place. Afterwards, give the nighties to her.

Valentines Jewelry

Every woman feels happy receiving Valentine’s jewelry, so never forget to put bracelet, ring, or necklace into your options. When choosing jewelry as one of your Valentine presents, think of hearts every time, as hearts shows love and romance. Remember, no matter how much it’s worth, be it expensive, flashy or not, she will appreciate any jewelry from you as long as it shows that it is really from your heart.

But then, if you are really for something that is remarkably impressive and heart swooning, show her something big and different. Try sky writing your love message to her. You can also try bringing her to an expensive restaurant. However, to make things work out well, try to call for an early table reservation with champagnes and candles on it. But above all, this preparation will top off other Valentine presents if you will have those foods ordered ahead of time for it will show how much you focus attention on what she wants and what she doesn’t want. Place the jewelry gift near the glass next to her. Women appreciate such kind of efforts.

Once the dinner is done, hand her the naughty gift you have prepared. And as a part of your Valentine presents, get into this act of rubbing her feet for her to know how much you understand how she feel running around the errands. Make her desire be satisfied. With this, she can regard this day as her most loved Valentine’s Day.