Using Wedding Cake Flowers to Add Beauty to the Presentation

Flowers are an integral part of every wedding, right down to the cake itself. Wedding cake flowers can add an extra touch of beauty and grace to the end result. There are many common ways for them to complement the design and flow of your presentation. For starters, having them on the table around the cake really spices up the overall look and feel. Placing a small corsage on the top of it is one popular option, as is spreading some flower petals on top of the cake. Flashier arrangements might spread from the bottom of the cake to its top.

In the past, artificial flowers were the most common choice. Whether sugar flowers meant to be eaten or silk flowers just for decoration, fake flowers were the ones often used. This is because while beautiful, many of them can also be toxic. Fortunately, most florists are keenly aware of which types might present a danger to the guests. Thus, it’s possible to use fresh, real flowers to garnish a wedding cake. Many florists can even provide options where you can actually eat the flowers that will be a perfect match for your cake.

Using edible flowers will often be a more expensive option, however. Since most flowers are commonly grown with pesticides, it can be difficult to find ones that are grown naturally for a good price. If it’s in the budget however, using this option can really add something unique to your reception ceremony. Your guests will love the beauty, and the overall presentation will definitely be enhanced.

How To Use Questions To Win More Negotiations

Questions are the foundation of negotiations. Thus, the questions you ask, when you ask them, and the way you ask them, all impact the negotiation. To the degree you ask good questions, those aligned with your goals for the negotiation, the negotiation progresses more easily upon the path of success.

The following are insights into how to use, how to answer, and how to avoid answering questions.

Assumptive Questions:

Assumptive questions give the impression that you may have more insight than you really possess. As an example, “In the past you’ve paid $5,000 for this service, correct?” In this case, you’re asking a subconscious and conscious question. The subconscious assumptive question is, you’ve used this service in the past. The conscious assumptive question is, you paid $5,000 for it. As such, you’re conveying the fact that you may have information about the other negotiator that can benefit you. In this case, observe how he answers the question (i.e. body language) and the words he uses to do so (i.e. para-language – words used to convey his sentiments). Both will give you insight, from which you can determine your next step.

Answering Questions with Questions:

Depending on the skill level of the other negotiator, you can answer his question with a question. By doing so, you gain more insight and information. By gaining more insight, you gain a greater perspective of his intentions. The skill level of your counterpart is important, because this tactic can also be used as a ploy to assess how deeply you’re prepared to lead him. If you’re not cautious, you can think you’re leading him while in reality you’re being led (i.e. disclosing your negotiation style and demeanor),

Emotions and Questions:

Emotions play a pivotal role in negotiations, especially when it comes to question. If you’re perceived as overemphasizing a word, a phrase, your question can project an unintended meaning. Negotiation Tip – People won’t always remember what you said, but they’ll remember the affect your words had on them. Suffice it to say, when asking questions be aware of your chose of words, the emphasis you place on certain words, and the speed and pace at which you speak. All of those factors impact the reception and perception of your questions.

Avoiding Questions:

When questions are posed and the other negotiator does not answer it, take note. The question may be hitting a sensitive spot that he does not wish exposed. If instead of answering the question he says he’d like to talk about another subject, you should note this even more; he’s giving insight through his actions that your question doesn’t have the importance to him as his topic. This could also be a ploy (i.e. in a negotiation, the person asking a question has more control). If you sense he’s avoiding your question because you’ve strayed into a sensitive area, you can pursue, or let it go for the time being. Do what’s appropriate for the timing and direction you’d like to take the negotiation.

There are many factors that lend to the importance of questions in a negotiation. Since questions are the heartbeat of a negotiation, in order to negotiate more effectively ask the appropriate question at the appropriate time. If you couple that with using the questioning tactics above, you’ll have a winning combination for more successful negotiations… and everything will be right with the world.

Remember, you’re always negotiating!

Create Win-Win Negotiations – Make People Want to Negotiate the Deal with You

If you can learn to create win-win negotiations, then you can make people want to negotiate the deal with you. You negotiate the deal by asking questions, uncovering needs, and positioning what you bring to the table as a solution to some of those needs. Whether you’re looking to be a better real estate negotiator or just get a better deal on your next high-end purchase or get some attention at work, this is for you!

Win-win Negotiation Tips

61. Use metaphors to make your point. “I’m sorry but you can’t just give me the car with no engine. I won’t even be able to start it…how am I going to drive it?” Appeal to their sense of fair play/

62. Your silence should make THEM uneasy and leap to fill the silent space….but YOU should take THEIR silence to mean ASSENT. “Great, now that we’re in agreement on…let’s move on to..” If they don’t challenge you on that right then and there, they most likely WON’T. If they don’t it wasn’t important enough of a point for them to need to get it in order to feel a win.

63. “You made the RIGHT decision talking with me today”. People want to be right, tell them they are. This is a great way to create win-win negotiations.

64. Good real estate negotiators learn to use “Subject to buyer’s partner’s approval” in addendums. Who is your partner? Could be your goldfish for all they know. Be honest that you want a buyer’s partner’s approval. They don’t necessarily need to know who it is, as that doesn’t come into their consideration of winning the deal or not.

65. Master the art of comparing values oranges to apples…if you can make them see oranges AS apples…you can get a lot of value for what you offer comparative to what they now think you’re offering, and they’ll be happy with the trade too (because you built so much value). There’s some real Zen-level verbal judo in there for you if you can catch that…

66. Do real-world research into what motivates people to buy/sell/make a decision the most. Offer it to them positioned in with what you bring to the table. They get it, they win.

67. Read Abraham Maslow’s book The Hierarchy of Needs. It’s kind of academic and dry in places but you will not find a better description ANYWHERE of how to establish yourself at the top of the pecking order in any social or business situation.

68. Smile. Winners smile even when they’re losing. They just bite their lip too.

69. Show someone the courtesy of an in person visit ESPECIALLY when they wouldn’t expect it (long distance). It makes an impression that won’t be forgotten. And an impression goes a long way to creating a win-win negotiation.

70. If you’re meeting with someone for the first time, know exactly how to pronounce their name. If you don’t know or can’t find out, when you see it written say “Wow that is a very UNIQUE name…how would I properly pronounce it?”

71. Learn how to use framing and reframing. If you don’t know what this is, you need to reframe your brain; your window to the world is blocked. You can’t give a person a winning scenario while receiving one yourself if you can’t see the world through their eyes as well as your own.

72. You’ve decided you’re going to buy a property. Now work up a. Anticipated costs of various items b. Nature and cost of available financing c. Estimates of income d. A projected timeline indicating when expenses will be incurred and when income will be received…go back and RE-NEGOTIATE when the numbers don’t work, and strive to make the solution work for all parties involved.

73. Drop a dead deal if the deal won’t work (but remember, leave the door open). No negotiation tactics or focus on win-win solutions can save you if there’s nothing to deal.

74. Create the aura of exclusivity. “I’m the only game in town for you.” You can’t create a win-win for them if they go somewhere else to deal.

75. Don’t be misled by the aura of legitimacy. Just because someone is clever enough to put “Standard Contract” across the top of a piece of paper doesn’t mean it’s LEGITIMATELY “standard”. What is “standard” anyway?